Friday, December 4, 2015

Fitness Friday

Today is suppose to be, my earliest childhood memory. I have to be honest with you, I don't really remember much from my childhood. I had a concussion when I was younger and also, I did a lot of drugs and drinking when I was younger, so my memory has greatly been affected.  
Plus I couldn't come up with anything that wasn't very depressing and why on earth would I do that to my readers!

Instead I'm going to recount my weeks fitness effort. That's funner than silly old me and my drama.


MONDAY: So I started doing the 4 week challenge. Today was HITT to be FIIT and man was it hard. I had hoped that I would be able to do all my workouts in my gym but my wifi wouldn't reach for my laptop to get a signal. I had to end up dragging my weights up stairs to do it, then 15 minutes on my elliptical and 15 minutes on the treadmill.

TUESDAY:  wifi fixed!! Slim and Sculpted arms was the workout today. I can't do the heavy weights that she does but my arms were burning when I was done. I decided that in the afternoon to get a little energy I would do a quick Tabata of different things. 30 minutes on the treadmill.

WEDNESDAY: I had a lot of trouble with this one. 10 minute tighter waist. I do not have very good balance and having to be on my elbows, backwards, was to much for me. I used my stability ball and ab chair instead then did 3 miles on the treadmill.
In the afternoon I did my Tabata. Which was mostly leg moves.

THURSDAY: When I took my laptop downstairs and for some reason the video wouldn't load...which I think was a sign that I was not to do this challenge anymore. I honestly wasn't feeling it. There is no background music and I really NEED music to workout. I went through my saved workouts and found this one. WOW! I am so feeling it.  Then I did a 30 minutes on the treadmill but also went for a nice 40 minute walk outside in the afternoon.

FRIDAY: I didn't want to hurt myself so I slept in and just got a nice 4 mile walk, outside.
I have been having some issues with my old injuries flaring up. I have decided that since I did the Whole30 I'm going to eliminate a few more things from my diet to see if I can reduce my inflammation.
It is really hard to get a good workout in when you can barely bend over or walk without limping.

So since I have given up on the 4 week tone up challenge I will have to either find another one or go back to just finding a different workout every day. I'll work on that this weekend.

Thursday, December 3, 2015

Meaning of my name

What is the meaning of my blog name?

Benders Balancing Act

For starters, my husbands last name is Bender so it is my tribute to him. I chose to keep my maiden name with this marriage. It is a lot of work to change all your information once you have a name change. My hubby was OK with it so what was the harm and I have a sister-in-law also named Lisa.

The balancing act part is just how I feel. I wear so many hats and am into trying new things on top of my daily responsibilities.

Normal everyday....

I am a SAHW so my day does include taking care of my hubby. Making sure that he is happy when he leaves for work and that he has been fed. Just like a child!

I also take care of my cousins baby during the day. She is 9 months old and into everything. She is so much fun and overwhelming at the same time. My hubby and I really wanted kids when we first got married but she has helped us to not feel bad that we can't have kids.

This one may sound crazy but I am a SAHDM. (Stay at home dog mom) My dogs are spoiled rotten and they know it. We rescued a husky from a parking lot 4years ago and he is just like a child. He gets jealous of the baby often and if I don't make up for it at the end of the day he will retaliate! 

I am kind of OCD and have to try and stay on top of all the dog hair that lines my baseboards. My house is way bigger than I need and keeping it clean is more work than it should be. (One of the many reasons I want to move) 

Extras I try to do....

Well for starters is this blog. I thought it would be fun to have a place where I could go to share my lessons on things. I am not doing it for profit, it's just for joy.

Then of course I am always trying some new sort of workout. This month is Bender Fitness challenge. It is so fun that I found someone who puts together and shares her workouts and her last name is the same as my hubby's!

I also wanted to do some homemade gifts for Christmas. Yea, I only have one done and haven't even started on my decorations I wanted to make. At least I don't have a tree to put up this year.

I am trying my hand at better and more creative pictures so I am going to do an Instagram picture of the day December. So it is holiday based. Should be fun I think! If you want to follow along here is my

Oh and I am doing a 30 day inspiration journal! I use to journal a lot and wanted something to encourage me to get back into it. 30-day-challenge-inspirational-journal

So that is why I chose the name that I did. I hope you enjoyed reading about my craziness!

Tuesday, December 1, 2015


Ok, here it goes. Day one is introduction and I will do day 2 which is 20 facts about me.

  1. My name is Lisa,
  2.  I am a Capricorn 
  3. who was born the second week in January.
  4. I am the youngest child of my mother
  5. and the middle child of my father.
  6. I was born a blond but dye my hair ALL the time.
  7. Married for the third and last time.
  8. I have one child, who is 22! Oh that's right I didn't tell you how old I am.
  9. I do have 2 step children, that I never see.
  10. I did not graduate from high school but have a GED.
  11. My vehicle of choice is an SUV.
  12. I have 3 dogs, one which I rescued from a parking lot 
  13. and a Chinese Water Dragon named Gallum.
  14. I am self husbands choice.
  15. My favorite color is purple.
  16. I prefer to listen to hip hop, especially when working out.
  17. My favorite food hands down is PIZZA!!
  18. I didn't start eating vegetables until about 4 years ago.
  19. I HATE snakes
  20. and am afraid of heights.

That's me in a nutshell. I had to think awhile on this list because I am not a very complex or diverse person who has done lots of adventuresome things with her life so far.
 I know they say that you should be yourself with your blog, try to make a connection with your readers. I am not so sure I accomplished that here with this one. If there is any of these facts that you would like elaborated on, I would gladly do that.

Monday, November 30, 2015

30 day marriage challenge round up

I thought that since it's the end of the month I would recap my month of the marriage challenge.
I already posted about it once. I will admit that after a couple weeks it didn't seem like a priority so we did not go out of our way to follow it.

Plan a date night: We don't ever go out on dates per say. We don't have any friends or lives for that matter so we do everything together. No need for a special date night if we do everything together already. I can see where it might be a good idea for people who don't get to see each other often.

Tell them you're glad you married them: I make sure to tell my husband how happy I am that we decided to get married. I accidentally called my husband by my ex's name and was mortified! I explained that there is no way I would want to give up my marriage to him. Talk about an embarrassing moment.

Pray for wisdom:  If you are having an issue with your marriage, things can be stressful and what better way to vent than to give it to God. I always make sure to pray for my husband every night.

Thank them: It always feels good to be thanked for doing something for someone else. The acknowledgment of your actions makes you feel good. Make sure that even if you have a hard time finding something to be thankful for, make it anything even something little.

Laugh with them: They say laughter is the best medicine. It is so true. My husband and I laugh all the time. Some times we will just laugh and laugh for minutes at a time. If it's hard to find something to laugh at, make an attempt to be funny, tell a joke or find a funny video to share.

Forgive: I can tell you that forgiveness is so good for the soul. I am not saying that you will be able to forget but if you want to be able to move on you have to honestly forgive and move forward. I haven't had to forgive much in this relationship but I know that it is wonderful advice.

Ask for their opinion: I am always asking my husbands opinion on hings. Mostly on household stuff. Everyone wants to feel that their opinion is important. I know that my husband came from a relationship that he was never involved in anything so I try to do the opposite.

Encourage them: Do not make your relationship all about you. It is important to think of the other person and give them encouragement for whatever reason. If they want to reach for some goal then you should stand by them and help in any way. It will only put a wedge between you if you become negative about whatever it is.

Admire them: I know that it can be hard to find something to admire about someone if there trouble. It will help you find your way back to loving them if you can admire them. Even if it starts off with just something little. I admire my husband for his strong work ethic! It makes me love him more.

Last but not least: LOVE THEM
This one can be easier said than done some days but if you just hold on to whatever it is that made you fall in love with them there is always hope.

I hope that if you are having some struggles in your marriage that you take the time to put some work into it and try to save it. I understand that that is not always doable but at least give it a try.